Romance and Marriage after Kids
Lost the romance since baby arrived?
By: Dee2007 on: Mon 14 of May, 2007 [17:48 UTC] (1358 reads)
Have you and your hubby lost that spark, or is it still there and you just don’t have the time or energy to worry about it? Well, if so then this article is for you. I know that right after you have your baby, many women don’t feel very feminine or pretty at all, while others seem to bask in being a new mom.
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I hate to say it. I was one of those moms who only glowed while I was holding my little one. So what to do? Well, if you're starting to worry about your marriage bed then I guess is time to make yourself feel like a woman again. So how?
Feel Pretty Again
I recommend getting a hair cut. Not much, mind you, but at least have someone other than yourself fix your hair that day. Another idea is to go out and pick a new outfit.
Now many women are put off by their weight gain through pregnancy and the struggle to get rid of it afterwards, and the idea of shopping is horrible. This is why you take your best friend or a close family member and let them know what size you are before leaving.
This way you don’t have to go through the hassle of trying to pick out an outfit while shopping in the wrong department. I know you wonder how that is even possible but, trust me, it is.
Choosing a Slimming Look
Now you don’t have to spend a lot of money on your new outfit and stores are always having sales. Choose neutral or darker colors if you have retained a lot of baby weight, or the season is on the cooler side.
However, if you slimmed down nicely and the weather is warm enough, then I recommend cooler colors and soft pastels. Remember to stay away from too many puffs and frills, this enhances any unsightly curves.
If you already have the outfit you want to wear and are looking for something a little more intimate, then a soft silky gown would be a good choice, or look for a lovely and utterly feminine matching lingerie.
No you don’t have to get the breastfeeding bras either whather you are or not, this is about being a woman. If you are going for the lingerie then why not go risky and look at a garter and come satin thigh-highs.
You want to look and feel feminine from the inside out and new lingerie always helps.
The Time for Romance
Once you have finished your shopping and visit to the beauty salon, now it's time to go home. Have your friend babysit, if not all night then for a while. Take a long bath using all of those lovely scented bubbles, and slowly dress in your attire for the evening.
If there is a meal planned that night, I recommend splurging a little and buying something while you are out that can be reheated. This way you have more time to pamper yourself. So now that you are ready, the table is set and the right mood music is playing in the background, smile when hubby walks through the door.