Dealing with your child Wanting Privacy
Learn How to Respect Their Boundaries
By: Taylor_Blue on: Wed 10 of Oct, 2007 [00:51 UTC] (3097 reads)
Around the ages of 6 to 8 years old your child will want privacy. You will need to learn how to respect their boundaries but still keep them safe. This is how you can.
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You have given your child a bath since the beginning but now she doesn't want you to see her. Modesty is kicking in, mostly because they are becoming more aware of their (and other's) bodies. They now can begin to notice the difference between girls and boys.
They are also trying to prove that they can take care of themselves. These sudden changes can present difficulties in adjusting to the boundaries they are enforcing. You may feel like you aren't a part of their lives anymore or taht you are unwanted. Here is how you can feel better and not take it so personal.
1) Don't give them total privacy-right now. Explain that there are some places you still need to go with them to protect them. Places like the public washroom, you can stand outside the stall instead of going in with them. Also tell them there may be times when a doctor will need to look at their bodies too.
2)Expect them to be inconsistent in the beginning. One night they may lock the bathroom door and the next they may want you to stay close while they are having a bath. Sticking with what they want helps a lot.
3)Teach them how to change in public. It's always good to teach them how to handle changing in public places like a locker room or public pool. Showing them how to do this can ease tension and anxiety.
4)Watch for extreme behavior. If your child suddenly is embarrased about their body, you will need to try to find out why. If you suspect it's abuse, ask them about it. Ask if they have been touched in a way they didn't feel comfortable with or if something was said that made them uncomfortable. But don't start jumping to conclusions. There could be a real simple answer, if it persists though talk to your family doctor.
5)Take advantage of the moment. This newfound privacy thing can be turned into teaching moments. You can talk to your child about hygiene and clothing choices. You can stress that people are all differnt sizes and shapes and you should be proud of your body.