Looking for love? How to start dating again after a split.
Taking the first step isn´t easy, here´s how to get back in the dating game.
By: totanaliz on: Sun 16 of Sep, 2007 [18:42 UTC] (1480 reads)
What happens when we commit to the “Happy Ever After” bit…only to discover that “ever after” actually meant “until we grow out of each other” or “until someone better comes along”? We find ourselves back in the dating game, older, wiser and usually carrying more baggage.
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So how do we prepare ourselves to go out there and find the next Mr/Mrs Right? First time around we were younger, brimming with confidence, secure in the knowledge that The One was out there (should Mr Pitt or Mr Clooney have already been taken) and without the added complication of kids (and resulting saggy bits). So surely second time round it ’s an impossible task?
Online dating seems a very good place to start for many reasons.
- There are many sites out there dedicated to singles and single parents.
- You can test the water…are you really ready to start receiving attention again?
- This way you can spend as long as you want ignoring any approaches, without fear of rebuke.
- You can carefully screen the possibilities…without the tedious 3 hour date and that awkward thinking-of-a-fake-telephone-number moment.
- You can then check, surreptitiously of course, any information they give you…Google is a wonderful thing!
So, without even shaving a leg you can check if you are ready, and have a plethora of possible suitors beating a path to your door. You also have the fabulous luxury of thinking of a witty one liner for ten minutes before you reply to their message…fool proof.
Of course there are always rules to follow, the most important being never share your data – in much the same way as you would never hand out your name, address and telephone number to all the guys or girls of your local nightclub.
Should you feel ready to meet someone in the person, always arrange a date in a public place, and let someone know where you are and who you are with.
So get on line and check out some web sites, find one that appeals to you and covers your area, and set time aside to write that witty and humorous (and glowing) description. Get your friends involved…get them to write you a fabulous reference! There really is no excuse not to get out there…without even leaving the house!