Rewards for Children for Positive Behavior
Sticker Reward System for a Child's Good Behavior
By: Taylor_Blue on: Sun 17 of Jun, 2007 [22:58 UTC] (1004 reads)
Rewards are something that can be used to reinforce positive behavior in your children. The rewards can be a special treat, special privileges, stickers or even money. You can also use rewards for encouraging your child to accomplish a difficult task. How can a reward system be used effectively?
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There are two ways to start using these rewards. The first is to reward your child whenever you notice your child behaving the way you want. This works if your child already behaves desirably and you want them to do it more often.
The second one is to already have it planned when you will reward your child. This means discussing it with your child and which behaviors he will be rewarded for.
When deciding what rewards to offer it is good to look at a broad range of items, expensive and inexpensive. Then write it down on a chart how many times or how many “stickers” they will need to be rewarded.
Here are some examples of things that you can use as rewards:
- Inexpensive - markers, paints, crayons, or choosing a favorite cereal
- Special things at home - choosing the dessert the family gets, or having a friend over
- Special things outside the home - riding bike somewhere different, go to the zoo, go out to a movie, or go to the pool
- Special time with parents - baking with parent, going somewhere alone with one parent or playing favorite game with parent.
Remember to involve your child in deciding what their rewards will be. The thing that makes it work is to add things they often ask for or the things that they ask to do. They will make a better effort if they know they will be rewarded with something they like.
Setting up the System
Think about which behaviors bother you and others in your family the most. How often do they happen and is there something they can do that is positive instead? (Example: Standing quietly beside Mom while she is paying for groceries instead of running around, would make him earn one sticker.)
The one reason a reward system fails is because parents make expectations too high. If your child feels that they will never earn the reward they will just give up trying or may not make an effort at all.
The opposite thing happens when parents make the rewards too easy to get. In this way, they lose their motivation because they will get rewarded too much. (Example: giving your child a sticker at the end of each aisle at the store if they behave.)
Things also fail because too many issues of behavior are tackled at once. The stress on the child may be so great that to succeed in all areas that they will give up without even starting. Also if you set up strict guidelines you will have to monitor them and follow through on the consequences you have placed down.
Focus on the positive. Identify the positive things that will replace the negative ones and include them in the rewards program. It is important that the positive and the negative are spelled out so your child doesn’t get confused.
I hope this serves as a great start to rewarding your child. But also remember to praise them often with words, too.
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