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First you will need to have the relationship with your teen that will encourage them to tell you about bullying or serious teasing towards them. Most teens won’t talk about it to parents because they think parents will over react and make things worse at school for them.

It’s not a laughing matter it’s a serious topic that you need to talk to your teen about. Then you need to take a plan of action. There are options like talking to a principal, getting names and calling the children’s parents or going to the police if it is bad enough.

There are warning signs to look for just in case your teen won’t admit to you that are being bullied.

• Missing valuables

• Bruising that can’t be accounted for

• Fear of school or skipping their classes

• Withdrawal, loss of appetite or anxiety

• Not having friends over as much

• Unexplained requests for money or money missing around the house

If you notice any one of these signs, ask your teen. Be comforting but determined. Explain to your teen hiding this problem won’t help but actually make it worse. Tell your teen that often bullies who get away with bullying others get bolder and more abusive. Stress you are concerned about their safety.

Once your teen admits there is a problem, you can do a couple of things:

• Collect any evidence of bullying. Include dates, times, places, details and witnesses. Also if stealing is involved list what has been stolen.

• If other kids have been bullied too join with them and approach the principal as a group.

• After telling the school find out what they plan to do and when.

Just remember not to blame your teen for being the object of a bully. It is not their fault that they are the victim. Listen to your teen and be there for them when they need you, which will do a world of good.